tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8730051186992097072013-04-24T21:42:16.136-07:00D's Random ReadsDi Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.comBlogger58125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-63633965661032163072013-04-24T21:41:00.001-07:002013-04-24T21:42:16.144-07:002013-04-24T21:42:16.144-07:00Interruptions<br />
I know.... It's been a while...<br />
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I've been working diligently on my book as well as the new chapter in my life... As I've mentioned before I have made the decision to be baptized in July, trying to make arrangements and focus on the book have been number 1 priorities. In the midst of all of this, I have seen my world practically crumble all at once.<br />
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I was left feeling lost, out of place and out of sorts. Everything I've ever known is not the same, and everything I've ever believed in is now being tested. It's amazing the amount of strength one has when they feel like nothing is left. A lot of people may take that moment and give up, I on the other hand became the mother whose child was stuck under a burning car. My mind went into survival mode, shut everything off, set everything aside and PUSH.<br />
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It's safe to say that 2013 did NOT start off the way 2012 did that's for sure. I have come far enough in this life to understand that NOTHING is by coincidence, nothing is by chance rather by divine intervention. God's plan is never just about us, it's a combined effort. WE have our idea and he has his, we can hope the two coincide with each other but I've found that ... All my GREAT big dreams and goals were nothing compared to what he sees in me, I was really selling myself short, and believe me when I say I was aiming pretty high in those goals. The problem with my goals were, they were only about ME. I have sat here and written about so many different relationship issues, spoke about how selfish people can be and how that can ruin a relationship... Never realizing that in my own relationship with God, I was being selfish, but once I did I could see how I was selling myself short.<br />
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I continue to learn more about myself and where my faith is going every day, and with it my life.<br />
I'm not here to shove my beliefs down your throat, that's not me. I have had a moment of clarity, I have them a lot more often than I used to. My life is changing and its happening so fast, that all of the things that irritate me, that try and hold me back almost don't even effect me any longer. I am beyond happy and ready to bring all of the good news that follows. Until we meet again...<br />
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-DDi Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-7182033230413925092013-02-19T18:22:00.000-08:002013-02-19T18:22:17.438-08:002013-02-19T18:22:17.438-08:00Granting Grandma's Final Wishes<div style="margin-top: 10px;">
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I come to you with all that I am, in order to pour out my
heart and down on my knees to beg for any assistance anyone may be able
to give.<br />
My Grandmother was diagnosed with Malignant Metastatic Cancer on
February 9th and in just 10 days she only has a short time left.
Looking back on my life with her I can’t imagine how someone who has
lived such a long life would wake up one day with such an awful
disgusting disease. She’s fought heart issues, strokes, not to mention a
life that was not easy. The woman bared 5 children and has outlived all
but two. Her lineage is extraordinary going all the way down to Great
great grandchildren. She took in anything that walked past her door, be
it a stray animal or a lost soul with no questions asked, and nothing in
return. She took the path that Jesus did, her grace and mercy were
nothing short of what he taught her, and while I almost never agreed
with these decisions she did it anyway. You see she took me in when I
was just 6 months old and raised me as a daughter, not a grandchild.
She’s the only thing in this world that matters anything to me and it
kills me to think I can’t do ONE thing for her after she’s served her
life for others. <br /><br />I am here to ask for your Grace and mercy, to
donate what you can be it a dollar, or more… or simply spreading the
word for me. Our family would appreciate this more than you know. I will
say Thank You in advance and may God bless you and your family.<br />
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To Donate just click <a href="http://www.youcaring.com/memorial-fundraiser/Granting-Grandma-s-Final-Wishes/42943" target="_blank">here</a>. Anyone with
paypal account can donate through this site, if you do not have a paypal account you can also donate
to the <br /><br />Varela Memorial Services (checks also payable to)<br />
Through Bank of America <br />
Account # 325010080452<br />
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-Di<br />
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Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-88382518289510605712013-01-02T22:10:00.002-08:002013-01-02T22:12:02.807-08:002013-01-02T22:12:02.807-08:00I Am The City On A Hill...This will be the realest thing I ever wrote...<br />
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For those of you who follow me on twitter or instagram, and the select few on facebook, you will have seen that things have definitely done a 180 in the last few months for me.<br />
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I went through life with such a hard exterior, one so hard that the person inside was barred from coming out. I was unable to be the person I wanted to be, because I was occupied being the person I had to be in order to survive. Meanwhile Here I am stifling the person I am inside, it felt as if I was suffocating almost. The outside of me could not stand the cheerfulness and mushy lovey ways people would be, or their way over dramatic excitement for the smallest things. I always thought, don't these people know there's more to life than what they're all excited about?? While I wouldn't judge, my opinions of things were far from what anyone else thought. While I'd have my moments, read my bible and speak about God, I always felt like some part of me was still lingering... Still trying to hold on to the survival skills I felt I needed... I look back and see myself just as the way I was, Everything I already knew, just trying to break the habit but unable to. And then One Night....<br />
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I heard him speak, there was no loud deep voice from above, it was from within. It eased my mind and soothed my soul... He gave me unquestioned answers, my soul did what felt like 360s in excitement, something I wasn't understanding, but I knew something was changing. People are told all kinds of stories of how God works, or they have all of these ideas about pastors and how the people of God come to be. Many think you get this calling and its smooth sailing, some think that people are just born into families and that's what the entire family does, that they all come from the perfect middle America type families... Well I am here to tell you a very different accounting of this.<br />
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I was raised with God in my home, his words read to me every day and night, taught the same bedtime prayers every kid is taught and our family was very far from perfect. As we know by now My mother was nonexistent unless she needed something from us, a father who was an awful human being, an uncle who was almost killed by his wife and is now mentally disabled because of her. My life was anything but perfect growing up, I battled drug addicts, thieves, criminals and death every day, be it mine or my family's but I always knew that God was there, and wondering how much longer he would let it all go on for, and I sat down one night and I couldn't even think and I did what I always did when I felt this way, I opened the bible to a random page and found Job 36:21<br />
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<i><b><span class="text Job-36-21" id="en-NLT-13734">Be on guard! Turn back from evil,</span><br /><span class="indent-1"><span class="indent-1-breaks"> </span><span class="text Job-36-21">for God sent this suffering</span></span><br /><span class="indent-1"><span class="indent-1-breaks"> </span><span class="text Job-36-21">to keep you from a life of evil.</span></span></b></i></div>
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<span class="indent-1"><span class="text Job-36-21">He answered the question I had yet to ask, I couldn't even get the words or the thoughts out but he heard my heart. I became closer to him that day.</span></span></div>
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<span class="indent-1"><span class="text Job-36-21">I made decisions based on what I thought he'd given me and I stuck to them the best way I could, they took me through times that were not some of my easiest but I did in fact learn a lot on the way. I was able to recognize he opened the doors, I just had to learn when it was time to shut them.<br /><br />I finally learned that surrendering and forgiveness took more than just the words, it takes understanding and the ability to be able to make your heart feel it. My grandma always said.. " When you say your prayers ask Jesus to come into your heart" Well I mean I knew what it meant, but until now I didn't really grasp the concept she was trying to teach me. Truth be told it can't be taught, it can't be forced, the word is spoken and you have to make the choice to receive it. The moment I made the choice I realized life had just begun. </span></span></div>
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<span class="indent-1"><span class="text Job-36-21">Although I started the journey years ago, as a child even... It was recently that the easy road started presenting obstacles. I knew that when I made the choice to fully devote my life to God that I'd be attacked from all angles, I just never really expected them to be so subtle. It's taken great concentration to recognize it, but once I did I felt like I was constantly watching a fly waiting for it to land, always looking over my shoulder... I quickly began to realize, that I was allowing Satan to command me without even knowing it. The Road wasn't easy, I still have so much to experience. The one thing about this journey is that with every step God teaches me something, and gives me something new that he specifically left out. I feel a peace that is calming and a calling that I can no longer silence. His voice speaks louder than any words can, and his presence is beyond amazing, it is magnificent. </span></span><i><b><span class="indent-1"><span class="text Job-36-21"><br /></span></span></b></i></div>
Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-30771975443076658032012-11-20T21:24:00.004-08:002012-11-20T21:30:34.121-08:002012-11-20T21:30:34.121-08:00Finally FreedAs long as I can remember, Grandma has always been my saving grace... Because of her I had a life, a childhood... Because of her I know what my future will be. When nobody wanted me, she did, when I felt like I was no one, she made me someone....<br />
And now I feel the tables have turned....<br />
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I have been waiting for the perfect time to tell my story, I figured it would be best for the book, I mean, they say that's where you pull people in... Mass production and $$$$ but today, I knew... Today was the day... No money, no oooh ahhh shock value... This is meant to shed some light on things in hopes that it allows...<br />
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In my last post I asked... How do you give the information without making it sound like some kind of movie... It didn't dawn on me then but now is the time....<br />
I've always lived this life with questions and expectations even as a child, always feeling like there was something more, more than me.<br />
When I was five years old, my Grandma and I were going through old pictures... There was a picture of my Mother, she was about Twenty-Four years old and my Grandma started to tell me about my conception... I know, I know... Odd that my Grandma would know that and share it with me at such a young age... Except it's not what you think...<br />
When my mother was young she was born without the shut off from her bladder to her urethra, which meant that she would need to wear a urine bag her entire life. Along with this, she was also born without a uterus, fallopian tubes, and ovaries, with no chance to ever have children.<br />
My Grandma was distraught, questioning how a child can be born this way... My Aunt who was heavily into church told my Grandma to go to church and have her prayed for, except that at this time Grandma wasn't as into church as she is now so this wasn't a instant reaction for her. She prayed, knelt down by her bed and prayed, prayed for Jesus to heal her baby girl, and that night my mother came in and told her she needed to use the restroom...<br />
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Grandma took her straight to the doctor and sure enough her bladder was normal, she had taken nothing for this, no surgeries were done, it was just healed, with no explanation from the doctors. While this was now in tact, her reproductive organs were not. It wasn't until 42 weeks before my birth that she would find out that she was no longer baron. <br />
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From the few people who know this about me, know that I tend to keep this to myself unless it needs to be known, I tend to get weird looks (as if I had anything to do with it) a multitude of questions, accusations against it... I'm sure you can imagine... However, the one reason why I don't tend to say anything is because I tend to get some who use the word miracle and take it way too far...<br />
I am here to tell you that YES I am a miracle, I don't deny the power he has to change things miraculously in the blink of an eye, the issue I have is trying to make people understand that I am nothing more than a product of his grace and power, an example, someone to share his glory and to bare witness to this.<br />
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For the last 20 years, I haven't had a relationship with my mother because, she isn't the woman God created, she's distorted by years of drug use and bad decisions, with no responsibility for her actions... In recent years I tried to make amends with her, to reconcile. I have forgiven her actions against me, however the love that a daughter should have for her mother is long gone. I started noticing the actions, mannerisms, the way she would speak, it wasn't normal, people just don't act the way she does... <br />
It was recently I started noticing an odd pattern with her, the last year, the times I would visit my Grandma, the feeling I get there is very unwelcoming, if i weren't a strong person by nature it probably would have really scared me...<br />
I could never understand what I did, as a child what was it about me that she didn't want me... She gave me over to my Grandma when I was just 6 months old, my Grandfather asked for her to leave me with Grandma so that she could have a chance to change her life, she did without any hesitation. As I grew up, even though she would be around from time to time, it was like she was forced to spend time with me, felt nothing like a mother and child bond.<br />
It wasn't until recently that I finally understood...<br />
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For years I prayed for God to make Grandma move with me up North, and one day... Grandma's water well went dry, and after estimates and information, it looked like drilling a new well was not an option, and practically financially impossible. God Finally set it in motion.... I just had to wait out the winter for the water to completely run dry and she would be here.<br />
On Sunday I get a call from my Grandfather, just so that he could tell me that he sent her the money to drill deeper... It was like everything God had granted was just ripped out from under me. I immediately felt Satan all around it. My "Mother" called my Grandfather and said everything she could to make him feel guilty enough to pay for a new well.<br />
I felt lost, empty and defeated until tonight.<br />
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Everything, every last question, I have an answer... While for so long I thought I had one, it was merely one answer leading me to THE answer...<br />
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I have spent the last twenty years with a feeling of anger and resentment consuming me, not able to forgive... Forgiveness... The one thing left that would keep me out of Heaven...<br />
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Could it have been Satan all along? Could he have been the one who made her baron, simply because he knew she would give birth to me? Is this why she is the way she is towards my Grandmother, because my Grandmother is the one who instilled God into my life?<br />
I could never understand why she treated me the way she did, why she was always so against me...<br />
Until tonight.<br />
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For the first time in my life, I could hear the fear in my Grandma's voice. She has always been my guarantee, my way of knowing that Heaven is real and how I know that paths are set. But tonight, it wasn't until I heard the fear in her voice that I knew how real everything really was. I know Heaven is real, I know Satan is more real now than he has ever been and in that moment I became safe. I knew then that Jesus saved me simply by having me tell my Grandmother this exact same thing. She cried, not because she was afraid any longer but because she knew that she was safe and that He has not left her and that she now knows what she needs to do to make sure she's as close to Jesus as she's ever been...<br />
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I never thought that I would be saving her. And Never would I think that I would be sitting here praying for my Mother to be saved. But I Am...<br />
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Having a relationship that I've had with Jesus for as long as I've had, I didn't think anything would surprise me because I believe in everything that he is, yet he continues to amaze me with how he works in me.<br />
Just as with Jesus, Satan's objectives and the power he has is just as real, the weak and the strong would waver in the presence of this, but my faith is everlasting and know my place among the father in his Kingdom.<br />
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I've made this sound like another epic storyline, except for the fact that this isn't a "What's going to happen" This is my testimonial as to what has already happened ...<br />
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If you have ever once spoken to me then you know, that my faith in God is as strong as it can be, that I can attest to his miracles and his blessings; If you haven't ever spoke to me, I ask you not to believe me, but to seek him out and he will show you your own blessings...<br />
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'Walk by Faith, Not by Sight"</div>
Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-16691962599804964292012-11-18T22:41:00.001-08:002012-11-18T22:41:32.722-08:002012-11-18T22:41:32.722-08:00Message In A ScrollHow do you tell a person that the world is about to change in the
blink of an eye and that all of the things to follow for Earth are
nothing but destruction, pain and suffering, all to end with a battle of
souls between God and Satan and that for God's chosen people it all
ends with a "Happily Every After" and not make it sound like some off
the wall Motion Picture and crazy?<br />
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Maybe there isn't a
way... Maybe people are just set in a way so much that we've stopped
believing in things that happen simply because they can.<br />
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I
have spent my last 29 years searching for a purpose, trying to
understand my reason for being here... I'm sure we all have felt this,
or questioned it... It's beyond that for me. It's like I have this
ticking clock I go by, that's been slowing, inching closer and closer to
a complete stop... While women are worrying about a biological clock
ticking down their fertile years... I am awaiting for a wonderful
beginning, my destiny.<br />
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Until this week, I have always
been fascinated by the Bible and the prophecies it holds, so much that I
can dive right into it and just read for hours... This week that
changed. I have thought myself a lot of things, I believed at one time I
was psychic ( I was a child) I believed I was a miracle (I am) and I
believed that I was just another sinner.... This week I realized that I
am not just any of those things but that I have been called by him
because I'm a sinner, because I am his miracle and because I am his
messenger, one of many...<br />
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I come to you as someone who
some of you know personally, as someone who you occasionally read, as
someone who believes in allowing a person their freedom of opinion.<br />
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News
hit this week that Israel had been hit with rockets from Palestine and
instantly in the blink of an eye my vision has changed..<br />
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<i><span class="text Luke-21-19" id="en-KJV-25846">Luke 21:19-22 </span></i></div>
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<i><span class="text Luke-21-19" id="en-KJV-25846">In your patience possess ye your souls.</span><span class="text Luke-21-20" id="en-KJV-25847">And when ye shall see Jerusalem compassed with armies, then know that the desolation thereof is nigh.</span><span class="text Luke-21-21" id="en-KJV-25848">Then
let them which are in Judaea flee to the mountains; and let them which
are in the midst of it depart out; and let not them that are in the
countries enter thereinto.</span><span class="text Luke-21-22" id="en-KJV-25849"><sup> </sup>For these be the days of vengeance, that all things which are written may be fulfilled.</span></i></div>
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Now
anyone can sit here and recite verses with syntax and prove their
points... the difference is... Its not my point I'm proving...</div>
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I've had dreams my entire life that never made sense but scared me to
death, I'm always left trying to make sense of them. A week before the
earthquake and Tsunami in Japan, I had a dream that I was in Hawaii and
suddenly waters started to rise and we were being evacuated from a
building which led me to a dark parking lot where there was a black and
white cat that continuously kept repeating something but I couldn't hear
it, I then saw this cat again under a blanket peeking out repeating
Armageddon over and over.... The day of the Tsunami I was set to go to
Santa Monica to meet with a friend... Never did I imagine that the cat
in my dream would be in her kitchen peeking out from the same blanket...<br />
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January
2011, news broke that everyone's existence would change from that
moment on and nobody is who they think they are, because there was now a
13th constellation has entered the Sun and Earth's orbit... This 13th
sign is named Ophiuchus ... If you see the placement of the sign and
read into the mythological stories behind each constellation, it sits
between Orion and the scorpion, to which Ophiuchus is believed to give
life back to the dead...<br />
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<i>Luke 21:25</i></div>
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<i><span class="text Luke-21-25" id="en-KJV-25852">And there shall be signs
in the sun, and in the moon, and in the stars; and upon the earth
distress of nations, with perplexity; the sea and the waves roaring;</span></i></div>
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You
see... This week life has changed for me, My clock has stopped ticking
and the calling is loud and clear. I have taken many roads towards my
spiritual baptism, roads I'm terrified to remember but those roads led
me to his Grace and Salvation, and I stand here in complete anointing
and obedience. I have never felt his love the way I did yesterday... To
be honest the service was a tad bit boring, its not what I'm used to,
nor what my church usually puts out, but during worship and all through
it I felt his arms around me, and his love rush over me leaving my heart
light and with a purpose.<br />
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I know there will
be skeptics, his plan would not work with out them, I would have no
purpose without them. I am here to stand before you to tell you that we
are in the time of his return. The seven churches are being warned, his
Bride is being prepared.<br />
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<i>Revelations21:12</i></div>
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<i>And
had a wall great and high, and had twelve gates, and at the gates
twelve angels, and names written thereon, which are the names of the
twelve tribes of the children of Israel</i></div>
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<i>12-21-12</i></div>
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The
Twelve tribes of Israel are speaking, and the words are being
manipulated into making us believe in a doomsday by an ending calendar.
We're prone to seeing the end of things rather than a beginning...</div>
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Revelations
is the most difficult book in the bible to understand because of its
symbolism. For God to speak through John in order to leave a map that
would unfold itself will tell you more than anything. </div>
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Genesis
begins with the first betrayal with the serpent convincing Eve to eat
from the tree of knowledge, it's only fitting that the last book in the
bible has been left with symbolism, leaving us to rely on God and his
word and to trust in him and that he is leading us to him. </div>
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Pray for your loved ones, get your "house" in order and let Jesus in, because he is truly the only way to the Fathers Kingdom.</div>
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To Be Continued......</div>
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God Bless Us All</div>
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Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-35571419564114998372012-10-23T21:05:00.002-07:002012-10-23T21:05:36.004-07:002012-10-23T21:05:36.004-07:00Sisterly Love...I've sat here for about a month with this blank sheet open in front of me preparing for my Best Friend's wedding... You see, It was a shock to me when I got the call, and as any Best Friend would be I was a little bit concerned. She's known him a short amount of time, definitely too short for me, but then again... I'm known to endure things for years on end so I guess it was just natural, but for Chas the woman is definitely one with the wind (fitting since she's an Aquarius... -thats an air sign for those who are unaware) ... As she is, so I decided to be as well, when one night her fiance posted their wedding announcement and I about lost my heart knowing that I couldn't be there for her big day. Although she says there will be a larger wedding in a year or so, I know from experience often times that never happens... so I decided to just say forget all of my grown up responsibilities and booked a flight to Florida... And she had no idea... So here I am a week later with the words I wanted her to hear.<br />
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I've always been a big sister to my little brother, who wasn't always around, you see... Or not like normal siblings would be, and I always wanted to know what it was like to have a sister. One day when I was thirteen, this dreadful day in October.. My Physical Education class was changed to 5th period, a class where I knew nobody, in with a bunch of girls I didn't like including Chasity... Now mind you I didn't even know her, but maybe it was just the fact that I was in this class and just assumed the worst about everyone because I couldn't stand anyone else in it. But then... I couldn't tell you what it was or how it happened but I knew I had found my long lost sister. Chasity and I instantly became joined at the hip and we became a family. You may not know this by looking at her, or even talking to her, but she used to be this timid shy young girl who I knew inside was more opinionated than she showed, but she always kept herself very reserved. She wasn't the girl throwing herself at the boys, or trying to fit in with the other girls, Chasity was genuine every last bit of her, and that's one thing that's always been the same with me, if you aren't genuine I want nothing to do with you. She proved me wrong in so many ways, so many I have lost count. <br />
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At fourteen, she met a boy who stole her young naive heart, and though I warned her about him, she made her own decisions and though I wish for her sake she never had to go down that path he led her, God gave her the greatest gift someone can ever have... A son, my first Godson and on February 20th at 5:02pm when our eyes locked with him, I knew that no matter what life may throw at her, she was blessed and he is a reminder of that every day. When I look at him as a soon to be teen, I see the amazing woman she has turned out to be, but more importantly the amazing mother that she is. Although I may have lost faith in my own, they are a reminder to me every day that Great Mothers do exist.<br />
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The morning of the 12th of October, I had all of these ideas of how to surprise her, I mean the fact that I was there was probably enough I mean 3,000 miles of travel over night would have probably sufficed, but if you know me, I never do anything minimal. So for weeks she had been texting all day every day, talking about plans, I even went as far as to send her a box with her veil and some gifts to throw her off the scent... You see, Chas has always had a little bit of "blonde on the brain" so I was relying on this to get this surprise done and sure enough it worked amazingly. So come Friday morning, all of my plans fell apart and chose to go about it in a witty and nonchalant kind of way, by calling her at 4am (Pacific time) never knowing I was in the same time zone as her, and letting on that I had insomnia and couldnt sleep and figured I'd call her because it was the day before the wedding and I wanted to make sure she was calm ... And I had asked what she was doing, which she tells me she was taking her son to school.... So I very calmly asked her if she could come by her mom's and pick me up, because I was just there by myself.... To express to you the joy my heart felt to have heard the excitement in her voice is near impossible. She was shouting asking her son if he knew, and she just kept repeating "You're lying" over and over...<br />
I am no hugger, and let me tell you I practically despise it, but to hear her frantically knock on the door and fill her in my arms was like .... like... knowing that every decision I've ever questioned was no longer that, it was right, and to have missed this day that would be so important in her life would have been like my Grandmother missing my wedding day... It was important and necessary.<br />
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From our planning and prepping to doing her make up the afternoon of the wedding, trying to hold back our happy tears... This day was real and it was a day the two of us deserved after what we've shared with each other... The look in her eyes, the happiness and excitement I knew that it was time, she was really ready to make this decision. As I help her put her veil on, she was calm and settled, as her best friend this was me giving her away to a new best friend, not one like me, one that will take head of her little family ( or as much as she will allow) one that is binded by the love of God and the state of FL, one that will take care of her in the way I know she deserves.<br />
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On a dark cloudy day in Key Largo sound, we hurried to the sound so that we could beat the rain. As I wave her down, I catch the glimpse of her son walking with her arm in arm, with her short vintage style cream dress, hair tussled just so, and rose and lilly bouquet and vivid red platform pump heals ... she meets Erdem infront of family and friends and I cannot keep the emotions in any longer, the rain starts to pour as they say their vows and it could not have been any more beautiful, as if God literally showered us all with his love... As they are pronounced husband and wife, I can tell you that my heart is whole because my best friend and sister is finally whole.<br />
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<br />Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-52543100089281755422012-08-20T21:02:00.002-07:002012-08-20T21:03:17.962-07:002012-08-20T21:03:17.962-07:00The Moment, You Own It.<br />
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Lose yourself in the music the moment you own it, you better never let it go, you only get one shot......<br />
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line used to mean so much and its amazing how time can change the
meanings to things that once were so important. I've come so far in the
last 10 years, I've experienced love, I've started the path to reaching
my dreams and I've felt heartbreak along the way. I won't ever regret
the pain I've endured because though at the time I didn't realize it, it
has really opened my eyes and made me realize that I'm a force to be
dealt with. Often times we think we're stuck in a rut while trying to
achieve our goals, but it takes just ONE person, and often the last
person we'd expect to show you exactly what you achieved and resent you
for it.<br />
I struggled with this for years, years that I can't
change, not that I would, only to have opened my mind to realize that I
was on the path that was eventually leading me exactly where I
envisioned.<br />
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The last few years have been quite a blur for me, and as someone
who needs control of her life, that has probably been the worst feeling
known to me ever. The most recent years have really given me time to
reflect and make sense of what I couldn't sort out before.<br />
Trying
to make sense of what someone SAYS or PORTRAYS from what you really
know, that's not the easiest thing to come to terms with. The people you
let in are the ones who you hold with the utmost honor, Trust. I am a
very open person when it comes to most things, but there are certain
things I protect with everything that I am, and that includes people.<br />
For
those who haven't had the opportunity to sit down and get to know me, I
like to give everyone fair warning... I always have a secret weapon
stored away if ever needed, intuition, instinct and the ability to know
"Bull Street" when I hear/see it. If you think I believe you're in the
car, when I can clearly hear the acoustics of a room around you ... I'm
pretty sure I can assess the surroundings... <br />
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I know I'm ready to embrace this adult I've become, I haven't been a child since I was about 12
and I'm not about to turn back now, and those in my life need to have
the same frame of mind, because they say, you are the company you keep. <br />
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Opportunity comes once in a life time .....Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-21015667180034674512012-07-11T19:44:00.002-07:002012-08-29T09:59:22.116-07:002012-08-29T09:59:22.116-07:00I Am Genna Ayup...<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
On June 26th, 2012, 27 year old Genna Ayup was brutally murdered by her boyfriend, Ronald James Corbin Jr. After an altercation between the two outside their house, the two went inside and neighbors witnessed the sound of a gunshot...<br />
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- He ran to get his gun and shot her in the face. -<br />
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This statement was not given by Mr. Corbin Jr. or a neighbor.. This is what the two year old son of the couple witnessed with his own eyes and in his own words, he has been able to describe the whole horrific situation in detail....<br />
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I wish I could say that this was the beginning to one of my manuscripts in the works but unfortunately this is not fiction. This is an actual horrific, tragic event that has occurred in Tucson, Arizona.<br />
As of now Mr. Corbin Jr. has not been arrested, questioned nor has he given a statement. He has hired an attorney at this point but again, has NOT been arrested. According to the police, because he is not a flight risk they did not need to arrest him.<br />
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A man kills a woman in front of a child and that is not enough reason to bring the man in for questioning!? Where is the practice of justice here? Now, I'm not saying that they arrest him on the spot, but at the very least bring the man down to the station for questioning! Hold him on having a weapon around a child? I'm sure they could have found a reason to bring him to the station AT THE VERY LEAST, and go from there. Our country is so disorganized and unruly that we let people run around with guns without legal consequence, while innocent bystanders suffer the mortal consequences.<br />
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I ask you all to stand up! Stand up for a Mother, Stand up for your Sister, Stand up for your Daughter, Stand up for Friend, Stand up for the INNOCENT. Our laws were written for structure and to bring justice, but are upheld without. <br />
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This is a case of unjust protocol, much like Treyvon Martin, Genna is without peace, without resolve. While their son is left to be with Mr. Corbin Jr. his father, while the justice system works through its procedures. Domestic Violence has increased and will continue to increase rapidly if we allow these things to continue. This woman didnt end up with some broken bones, a black eye, burns... Her life was taken away from her in an instant, a mother has been taken away from her son by the person he lays next to at night, and who is left to help him? Be that person. <br />
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I have attached a link below. Please I urge you to share this and re-post it everywhere you can... Please spread the word. Assure everyone this is not a scam, nobody is asking for money or donations, just your support. Genna is my dear friend's cousin and their family is devastated by not only this tragedy but the manner in which it's being handled. I want to thank you all in advance. -D<br />
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<a href="https://www.change.org/petitions/justice-for-genna-ayup-arrest-ronald-james-corbin-jr-for-the-death-of-genna-ayup?utm_campaign=twitter_link&utm_medium=twitter&utm_source=share_petition" target="_blank">I AM GENNA AYUP - JUSTICE FOR GENNA (petition)</a><br />
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*UPDATE* Mr. Corbin was Arrested on One count of Manslaughter today... ONE COUNT OF MANSLAUGHTER! Was later released on his own recognizance until his hearing on August 23rd, 2012, where he will roam the streets as a free citizen. My hope is that the release is to allow the District Attorney and the Tucson Police Department enough time to get the evidence and facts together to up the charges, because Manslaughter is definitely NOT the correct charge, nor the only.<br />
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Please continue to spread the word, I want to thank my followers for spreading the word before I really released this blog, Please continue to do so! Justice For Genna! <br />
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<b>UPDATE:</b><br />
Since the posting of this article, the charges have been dropped against Mr. Corbin. Many have their theories on the reasons for this and as you can imagine the family is outraged. I however believe a different scenario, which is more beneficial to the family, which we will leave out because if I'm correct, I wouldn't want what my theory is, to compromise the judgement of this case. To sum it up, He knows what he did, the family knows and Genna knows what he's done and regardless of the outcome he is going to have to live with this for the rest of his life, and though outsiders may not see this, its going to eat away at him whether or not he shows it is another story, but this is his internal struggle he will have to deal with for eternity. I do not believe the City of Tucson has given up, I just don't. I have faith in all that there is and believe there is something larger at work here.<br /><br />The petition has been updated so if you haven't signed it please do!</div>
Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-46072284455426393402012-06-20T22:41:00.002-07:002012-06-20T22:55:01.345-07:002012-06-20T22:55:01.345-07:00Blinding Lucidity<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
She sits home ... alone she wonders what's next, what step?<br />
She thinks back to what days were like before, before she was engulfed in the life she lives now.<br />
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She knows only of the pain now... The days that left her with a smile and a fulfilled heart are vanishing, the memories are stained with the events that emerged tears so dark she can barely see the imprints. <br />
How did I get here? Where am I, Who am I? A life of pain and and lies? Rubbing her chest, she massages her heart to revive what shes lost, but its over, she can't bring it back so she sits...<br />
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Visions overwhelm her, she's bombarded with, memories? Are they dreams? She doesn't recognize them; A woman with a wide smile with a gleam in her eyes, a man whose every glance is fixated on her, he hangs on her every word... Who are they?<br />
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She sleeps light, her mind heavy, weighing her down while it races, 'Why is none of this familiar yet I see it so vividly?' So out of place, she forces herself to sleep, to a place where she feels safe, the only place anymore... There he is... So familiar, he stands tall, hands firm but soft, one holds her chin while the other her hand. She looks up to meet his stare and he fades. She hears the words that have stung so deep as he disappears. The words appear in front of her like a marquee in the shape of his silhouette, as sad violins begin to play she reaches out as she starts to go blind and only the sound of the strings guide her to lucidity.<br />
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She awakes unclear on what she has just witnessed, still so clear in her mind she starts to dwell on the thought of him... Who is he? Where did he go? An instant shock of desire and admiration hits her and just as quickly as it arrived, just as quickly it reprieves...<br />
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She's exhausted, day in and day out of this same recurring dream, or nightmare is more like it. She stands and walks to the door, there he is; His hands look tattered and rough, they lay at his side, he's hunched over his eyes just as lost as his soul. The words cutting so deep, the violin plays louder the lies are now screaming in her ears as she stares at him with nothing but certainty. This is regret, his regret. She sees all of her memories playing in front of him as if they were part of a tragic movie... He falls. His face so heavy in his hands and low to his knees... As he comes to his feet, he begins to speak, but all has been lost .... <br />
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She is now free. </div>Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-86070514478921365822012-05-01T20:13:00.000-07:002012-05-01T20:13:01.978-07:002012-05-01T20:13:01.978-07:00Orchestrating The Melody<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
While in my latest moments of solitude and time away I've had time to reflect... Just when I figure it all out and settle into what feels like a normal contentment, The Walls Close IN.<br />
We've all been there, when one thing happens, it triggers an avalanche of events and the never ending question, "What else could possibly go wrong?". It wasn't until last night's moments of disgust that I finally found some clarity.<br />
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We will be brutally honest here, because I have nothing to hide; Because how can I inspire anything if I were to leave questions? More so, I have always believed that "The Early Bird Gets The Worm" and in this case this dove is officially spreading her wings.<br />
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I learned something from my Grandmother a long time ago, To love with my whole heart and to give myself fully in anything that matters to me. I also learned from my Grandfather, not to "Bite The Hand That Feeds You" and if they do, BITE BACK.<br />
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My Grandparents are complete and polar opposites from each other. My Grandfather, Strong, Makes choices based on emotion but level headed, has a strength in his demeanor. My Grandmother, Caring, loving, would give the shirt off of her back and shoes off of her feet if simply asked, stubborn. It's funny, as long as I studied astrology, a Pisces and Leo were never meant to get a long, yet they married and My Grandmother is my Best Friend. I have invested in what they raised me with and became my own, doing everything I could to be sure I was the one they could be proud of. The one and only child that isn't still living at home for one reason or another, being the one who is employed, the one child who made something of their life, but most importantly the one child that at the very least they knew loved them for no reason other than just because I do.<br />
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I took everything they gave me and created the person you read before you.<br />
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In the near future you will read stories based loosely upon my life, others based on experiences I've witnessed, and wherever I choose to let my imagination take you, but before the fiction I want to let everyone in on who the conductor is.<br />
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I've dedicated my life to my Grandma, she gave hers for me, its what I've always known I wanted to do.<br />
She and I have always had a certain language we speak to each other, one that only two people with our special bond would understand. In our household we grew up with powerful lungs and knew how to use them. It's how we got things done. Did we yell at each other? Most on the outside think that, but most didn't live with us or even understand us. A strong woman, A strong man raising a strong woman and two others who were unable to help themselves, strong voices held strong conversations.<br />
It was something that My Grandma always said to me that made me understand outsiders, "Honey you know I love you, you speak my language and understand me like nobody else can, and nobody will ever understand us the way we do." I think of this when I hear people who feel they're entitled to an opinion speak about us yet not to us. My Grandma comes from another time, from another place. Born in 1922 to a Father who loved her dearly and a Mother who ignored her and yelled at her anytime she got the chance, My Grandma was raised in what she calls "The Sticks" and in the sticks people lived very differently than we do now. Her way of life was instilled in me from the moment she made my crib out of a dresser drawer.<br />
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Often I'm told that I have such a maternal instinct, or that I'm "such a grandma" and old soul, many would think that I would take these statements as insults, but they are probably the best compliments that I have ever been paid, because it means that my Grandma will always live in me as she should.<br />
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My heart became whole not at birth but at the moment she held me in her arms. At that moment her love became my own, I will always fight to be sure that she is taken care of and that she has everything she deserves, and if I lose relationships along the way because someone does not understand, so be it. My responsibility is to her First and foremost, and as my military Grandfather taught me, with every win will come at a cost, and when it comes to her I will lose everyone if it means I have My Everything.<br />
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Some think that it takes a lot out of a person to take care of the elderly, except that the only thing it really takes is love, and when she says "Your love keeps me alive" to me, I know that not only are our voices strong, so is our love.<br />
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*Dedicated to the only Mother I've ever truly known, to the woman who has held my hand through every horrific moment in my life, who cried with me and wiped my tears when I couldn't handle the pain. You are the reason I strive to be the person I am, the reason I want to wake up every morning, the one person who taught me how to love. I promised to give you the love you never had, to give the love you've given me. You have always been the Golden to this Girl. I love you more than life itself, and I thank God every night that he gave me to you so that you could bring me to him. I love you, I love you, I love you. <br />
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- Your little Mexican Girl</div>Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-6746986722158286702012-03-12T19:37:00.007-07:002012-03-14T21:50:35.441-07:002012-03-14T21:50:35.441-07:00Interlude...<div>She lays silently with nothing but the thought of what seems like a dream as the lucidity sets in she's unable to see the line between realms.<br />He speaks to her in volumes unknown to him, but his voice plays every string to her heart, put life into what was beatless, brought her back to life.<br /><br />His words speak to her subconscious laying out her every fantasy, not in what she feels in the physical, but what her heart feels. She feels the words calm her nerves, though he's honest she can see the small piece he still hides; The piece he keeps for himself that she knows he wants to share.<br /><br />His heart strings were loose, she's not deaf to the tune... His pitch is perfect as his soul sings the Melody, no sign of any auto-tune. Sincerity and strength in the pain he's felt, as she synthesizes with his beat she hears the cadence as it slowly begins to march to his bass.<br /><br />Moving slowly she imagines the moment everything will change, he's reserved in his appearance yet moves with confidence. Her eyes meet his gaze and its as if he hears her thoughts, he realizes she holds a certain strength, a certain mystery that he's yet to find. He's turns away to clear his thoughts and turns to her and wonders ... Could she be the one he's waited for...<br /><br />He looks back and she's nowhere in sight ... She's awaken from the night...<br /></div>Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-60420125262356182052012-02-13T19:23:00.000-08:002012-02-13T23:25:50.327-08:002012-02-13T23:25:50.327-08:00Proof Of ClaimI was once told, that by being the designated driver for my friends who drink was enabling them...<br />Had I taken that into consideration, not only could my friends be gone, but so could others... innocent lives...<br /><br />I don't take anything I do lightly... Which to some people it looks as if I'm too serious, but to those who have taken the time to get to know me, understand that my passion runs deep... They also know what a zest for life I have, that I can make a good thing out of any situation should I choose to. .......<br /><br />I'm going to stop there... And start by saying that, Ive always been an emotional person, I used to base it on the fact that I'm a Pisces ... which I mean could still be true... But, in some of the most darkest or happiest times, I find that he blesses me with tears so that I can feel his love, whether I need it to remind me, I can call on him or to remind me of the blessings he's given me.<br /><br />I knew when I started this road, I knew that I would have opposition, I knew that my life would change... Though it may seem difficult at first, though it may seem absurd as to how I will be treated, I understand.<br /><br />I'm a different kind of "Christian" that you may have found... I'm not judgmental, or at least I try really hard not to be, I don't feel like I'm perfect although I will try to live in his perfect likeness...<br /><br />I have been told that I've always been different, that because I have seen the good and bad sides of faith that it helps me identify with others... Or maybe its just the fact that while I've always had my faith I know that regardless you can still experience the bad side.... I'm realistic, while I understand that there are guidelines to be followed, I know that I was born a sinner, I know that because I was born a sinner I will die one, the difference is when I leave this earth I will have been forgiven, because I have given my heart over to Jesus, not because I let him in my life, but because I realized it was never my life to make that choice.<br />I am here because of him, I have a place in Heaven because of him, I know that he died, rose and will rise again because of our flaws as sinners... But what I live by is the fact that by knowing his heart, I know my own.<br />I know that to sin on purpose cannot be forgiven, because it becomes a recurring circle... If you think he doesn't know your every thought before you think it, what's in your heart, I would hope you would reconsider that thought. Words are only sounds until there is meaning behind them, a prayer, and prayers of forgiveness can be nothing more than wishes, or dreams with no destinations unless there is true meaning behind them. <br /><br />I have never claimed to be anything other than me, I am human, I have views, and opinions, ones that are not always going to be agreed upon, which is fine by me. I do not expect to be looked at as an idol, as a saint, as godly as any of the things that people place as objects to be worshiped, because God says "I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of bondage. You shall have no other gods before Me." <br />He has sent his children to spread his word, not to be worshiped. I'm fulfilled by his love and just like with any relationship, I like to shout it from the rooftops. <br /><br />I will always admit my wrongs, I will always admit to my sin, because as I've said before it is my sin to bare, I repeat MY SIN to bare, and not for anyone else to judge me on them. I have tattoos (which is probably my most difficult to get away from) I've lied and I'm ashamed, I lust after men, though I don't act on it, it does not mean that my heart has not felt it; I've had hate in my heart... I've yet to meet a person who hasn't to which by the Bible's standards, you've already created murder [of the heart], look back at your life and your choices and tell me you're without sin. It's okay, I'll wait....<br /><br />I have only one to answer to, and it isn't anyone of this Earth or this life, he is beyond that. From my interactions with him lately, he still seems to put me where he wants me, so I guess I'm doing just fine...<br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;">_________________________________________________________________<br /></div><br />There's the line, feel free to throw your stones...<br /><br />"If God is with me, then who can stand against me..."Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-1453035089688820822012-02-05T14:08:00.001-08:002012-03-14T16:51:35.197-07:002012-03-14T16:51:35.197-07:00Make Me Proud...<div>I am no better than the next, but I do have morals, I do have views, and I do have opinions...<br />But Never have I considered them to be anything MORE THAN THAT. <br />A friend of mine felt that something I had to say was a judgment to which I highly disagree... But its eye opening to see how some view another's view...<br /><br />I'm not a feminist, I just believe that I am no less than another, and that women have fought hard to earn our place amongst men in "Their world" .<br /><br />As a young girl I would hear the stories my Grandma would tell, and it always amazed me to think that not everyone was an equal... I cannot imagine what it would have been like to live in a time where women were not equal, where a wife had no choice but to be submissive to her husband regardless of their actions. It boggles my mind to think that, this way of life is still true in some parts of the world. We won the rights to say whatever and be whoever we want, even if it may not be to everyone's liking.<br /><br />I've always said I would have loved growing up in the 1950's with the same rights we have now... That was a time where marriage meant something, where values prevailed over privilege. When a woman was respected as not an object but a human being, even if it wasn't in a corporate setting. Now was it always this way, I'm sure it wasn't, but even when it wasn't, this wasn't something that was promoted as a respectable way of life.<br /><br />I watch television and I see young girls getting pregnant being promoted, I see sex before marriage promoted as a way to pass time and be popular... That degrading yourself sexually is ok...<br /><br />Yes I was raised with Morals and Values and yes it does upset me when I see young girls feeding into the idea that it's alright to be treated this way, and young men seeing that it's alright to treat them that way.<br /><br />I have a friend who, while she loves her boyfriend very much, she refuses to move in with him before they're married... I know its an ancient way of thinking, and I have to say that I feel living with someone at least a little while before marriage is a good idea, just so you truly know what you're getting into... You can live with someone and not have sex .. so living that way isn't a huge deal to me, but I love the fact she believes in her values enough to stand up for them. Where did all of these people go??!<br /><br />It's not alright to talk about money, but its alright to talk about your sexual acts and partners??<br /><br />I can't imagine the world the way it's becoming, Yes we're free, but free to do what? Call it a judgment, call it an informed opinion, but yes I believe that values and morals should have a place in this society, and its heart breaking that it isn't that way. To think that I must settle for these things as a part of my life... Am I in the wrong to be offended by my husband objectifying other women... Love and Hip hop says if you love your man, you're willing to accept his indiscretions. Am I wrong for telling my children that it is NOT alright to have sex before marriage, that having a child at 16 isn't the ideal lifestyle... When did the right thing become the wrong...<br /><br />I will never apologize for the values my Grandmother instilled in me, I will never apologize for my faith... And I will never be less than what I know I am.<br />I deserve to be loved, and I deserve to feel like that love is genuine. I am more than a body and a face... The makeup doesn't make me although I love it... I'm intelligent, I tend to have a sense of humor, I'm eclectic, cultured... Most importantly I'm loving and I care ... I was once told that the one thing this person loved about me was that I cared so much, but in the same sentence was told sometimes they wished I didn't care so much... That's just me... I'm a passionate person, and yes I wear my heart on my sleeve and again I will never live as if that is a negative trait. Love me or hate me, its your choice, but this is me, and at the end of the day, through the life I've lived and everything I've accomplished I'm proud of myself because I deserve to be... I've made it to where I am because of the values I have... And every accomplishment, every let down, every decision I've made, I became what everyone told me was impossible... I did NOT follow in my "Mother's" footsteps like everyone said I would... I can look back and say ... I'm most proud that My Grandparents have someone to be proud of, and that they approve.... There is nothing in this world that solidifies my decisions more than that.<br /><br /></div>Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-3355912953417683362012-01-15T19:44:00.000-08:002012-01-15T22:28:50.380-08:002012-01-15T22:28:50.380-08:00RenegadeI'm funny when I choose to be... I don't mind a debate here and there but it seems as though, these two things have been seen as invitations for those who don't understand, that it's become for their amusement and not mine.<br /><br />I've gone through a lot in my life, and it's so interesting to me how much my view of life and events have changed. Though many may not like it, it is what it is.<br /><br />In my life I've been many of things, some I'm proud of and some I'm undecided on, but I know who I want to be and it seems as though it may not be the same as what others want me to be. Well I guess the good thing is, that I've always been one to go against the grain and be different, with my morals, caring heart and common sense.<br /><br />I've never been one to appease someone else just because it was easy, But I have been one to watch my manners, something my Grandma taught me. I have a strong mind and strong opinions, which I now know that there may have been times I should have kept some of them to myself, and if at any time I didn't and offended anyone, I would hope that you know it was not my intention and if I did I am sincerely sorry...<br /><br />One night my Grandmother had told me about how she had stopped smoking... She had gone to church one day and the pastor had started a prayer and had asked the congregation what they wanted him to pray for, I thought to my self it was like a dj at a club or something... Instead, my Grandma had prayed for the Lord to help her quit smoking... She walked out of the church and started to light a cigarette, and said she heard a voice that said "PUT IT OUT" And she never had another cigarette again in her life....<br />She had told me when I find God, REALLY allow him in, things are going to change... I did not want to hear any of that, because I figured I was already good the way I was and handling things just fine... I was also 16 years old.<br /><br />I see things in a way that offends me rather than anyone else, and because of that I now understand where Grandma was coming from. He's not only opened but warmed my heart, there's no way to ignore it, not that I want to but even if I did, its as if it's the only thing I find impossible. I spoke to 2 young girls (kids of a friend of mine) last night; We spoke about the Bible, they had all of these questions and all I could think to myself was, "I remember this" It was like it was my Grandma, Grandma Pearl and I, the 3 of us sitting asking these same questions, asking if its alright to pray about tether ball game...<br /><br />How can innocence be so lost? How can you find something you never even realized was gone?<br /><br />I've gone through so many emotions in this time in my life, which for the most part have been very comforting and I don't how else to say it other than I've Changed...<br />For the most part I'm the same person I've always been but my heart has changed. I've never been a push over and that will not change, if anything that's a stronger, and I would choose no differently. I would hope that people would take notice and understand that I am who I am, the only way that is changing is if God chooses, but for right now I am who he wants me to be and I like it. My life has never been more fulfilling with a simple opening of my eyes in the morning, and the deep breaths he allows me to take. I never really knew how something as simple as feeling comfortable could be one of the best feelings in the world. <br /><br />This may not make me some individuals favorite person, but I'm alright with that. I learned years ago that regardless of how someone else sees me, I am the one who owns the power, and a little confession... I do crave power a tad bit. So think of me what you will... It doesn't change who I am.Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-59269450937047431432011-11-27T23:29:00.003-08:002011-12-01T21:57:15.463-08:002011-12-01T21:57:15.463-08:00Conditionally Unconditional<div><p style="text-align: center;">There are 2 sayings / phrases that always stick with us...</p><p style="text-align: center;">" Forgive and Forget " and " Unconditional Love"<br /></p><p>We tend to stick to things and take them with us through life and these two sayings always seem to be the ones that we allow to influence us in a way that our lives almost revolve around them.<br /></p><p>I have found that we assume our position and force ourselves to live by this without ever truly defining what it means and what the extent of that definition holds...</p><p>I am a firm believer in forgiveness, and many think that you must forget if you forgive or that if you kick someone out of your life it means you didn't really forgive?? Forgiveness is about letting go of resentment, and the pain that was brought against you. Just because you forgive doesn't mean that it changes the person who had ill will against you, it means that you have to let go of what pains you, what keeps you up at night... You are the only one harboring that pain, because you were the one who cared enough for it to effect you, they never did and the pain you felt wasn't shared. Why are you going to live with that when they don't? Forgiveness is for your soul, not theirs, do not continue to let them effect you for the rest of your life.</p><p>I have long felt that Unconditional Love was mandatory for a working relationship, all to find out that there was one fine line I missed...</p><p>Assuming that you would do anything for the one you love or more importantly assuming the one you love should do anything for you is such an undefined way of viewing this...<br /></p><p>They never talk about the conditions that come with that, they never talk about the reality of "Unconditional Love"... So let's talk about it...</p><p>Many times you have seen me write that Love Trust and Respect is all your loved one owes you and this is where we begin...</p><p>As women we may expect a lot and have our "Mr. Perfect" that's hard to get rid of, but this shouldn't confuse anyone or be mistaken for being high maintenance, or wanting to be RIGHT all of the time, or anything other than what it really is... The 3 factors that keep that Love alive.</p><p>Choosing to understand your loved one even if you don't always get it, choosing to see the pain in their eyes, the hurt that bleeds through their soul, to sit and hold their hand when they're in desperation... </p><p>Put everything else out of your mind and allow your heart to feel for them, you may learn something in the process about yourself. If they mean what you say, show them... Words are only so effective, certain words need actions to show the worth behind them. </p><p>Love is an emotion that only the heart truly understands and when the mind only has certain information to go off of, our minds are at the mercy of our hearts.<br />Something to think about... The Heart can still beat without brain activity, and the mind is still operating far after the heart stops beating.<br />Every interaction you make is made by a partnership, nothing works alone, nobody and nothing is truly independent in the way we tend to believe.<br />The Mind needs all facts presented before it in ordered to let the heart make an informed decision. Why is it so difficult for questions to be presented and answers given?<br /></p><p>When operating by your heart alone you lose sight of the purpose and the journey along your path... Moving along but never understanding the road traveled. Imagine living with only your mind and without a heart to allow you to feel the things that you're mind is trying to process... Words are said... Something is happening but your mind can't figure out which part needs to direct it or how... Actions with no rhyme or reason, just empty meaningless sounds, movements, and ideas; Where does that lead? Leading a life by only thought process and without the ability to feel is nothing more than a way to escape from life. Having the ability to block out the heart may seem like the way to protect yourself or the way to move past the things that you think hold you back but in actuality what's happening is nothing... Allowing yourself to feel nothing, allowing yourself to achieve nothing, to appreciate nothing... and in the end Lose everything...</p><p style="text-align: center;">By losing your mind, maybe you'll find your heart.<br /></p><p><br /></p><p style="text-align: center;">D<br /></p></div>Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-86183614132807654252011-11-22T18:05:00.000-08:002011-11-22T19:05:50.372-08:002011-11-22T19:05:50.372-08:00Killing Them Softly...Please excuse me, I'm in a Random Moment Mode rather than a Random Read Mode ....let me focus...<br /><br />Becoming an adult takes a lot, it means having responsibilities, relationships, and making decisions and realizing that others are effected in what decisions you make...<br />Becoming Mature means understanding this.<br /><br />Everyone thinks that because you become a certain age that emancipates you, that you're an adult... Let me tell you a little something about being an adult...<br /><br />At 12 years old I was figuring out bills, I no longer had a mother (not that I ever really did) a Father was non existent; I took on the role of a Mother to the person who means the most to me in this world. My grandmother made sure I had a childhood but even with the childhood, I didn't go a second without thinking of her or what she needed, just as any mother would do for her child. Now, this isn't saying anything in regards to the way my Grandmother raised me, only she could have taken my situation and made it what it's become; This is me saying that when you are raised by someone and they are all you have and they are 60 years older than you are, something just happens where the tables switch and a new world of responsibility introduces itself.<br /><br />I became an adult at 12 years old, and full fledged grown up by 16. Now I may not feel my age but I think it's because I've been an adult for over 16 years now and this is nothing new...<br />I had been hurt and turned away by so many people in that time that it was like what else could I do but ignore it. I was letting it effect me to the point that it started to consume me until one day I realized that the rage was going to take me to a place that was unfamiliar, and I do not do well with unfamiliar...<br /><br />Every person whom has ever entered my life unlawfully made it a point that I knew they were there, except for the fact that they never had any explanation as to why... They felt they could just mooch off of my life and I don't know, Live vicariously through me and while they realized what I had and the way I lived was not up to what they pictured for themselves, they did what people only in their positions know how to do... HATE... Defile... Create Situations to feel better about them selves... or the way I like to say it is... THROW A PITY PARTY, invitation for 1 and whomever else they can drag with them.<br /><br />In my mind I had begun to fall into the trap without even realizing it until I realized I was becoming sick, emotionally drained and I stopped ... I stopped just long enough to say... Nothing.<br /><br />It was time to starve their attention, time to let them feel the way they kept trying to make me feel, the only way to do it was to beat them to the punch. I took control of myself, made MYSELF realize they were the ones with the issue, it wasn't me...Anything they had to say about me at my worst was still more than what they were doing at their best... So why am I the one that's being effected?? I no longer was...<br /><br />I learned if you're not with me you're against me and being against me is not worth the time or energy to show you the benefits of being with me... Because clearly you already know them and are intimidated by them so that's obviously not going to work for the situation.<br /><br />Rage is not your friend, I'm not sure how many understand that but it starts with hate and grows with jealousy ... Which ends up getting you nowhere. I grew up and have 12 years of understanding under my belt, while it's always a learning process, I know enough to take what comes and attempt to understand the situations. The people against you only take you to the place they dwell, which is downhill from where you've been, and already come so far from...<br /><br /><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><a id="publishButton" class="cssButton" href="javascript:void(0)" target="" onclick="if (this.className.indexOf("ubtn-disabled") == -1) {var e = document['stuffform'].publish;(e.length) ? e[0].click() : e.click(); if (window.event) window.event.cancelBubble = true; return false;}"><div class="cssButtonOuter"><div class="cssButtonMiddle"><div class="cssButtonInner"><br /></div></div></div></a>D<br /></div>Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-12012112889910601342011-11-10T21:19:00.000-08:002011-11-10T21:21:35.416-08:002011-11-10T21:21:35.416-08:00Forward ProgressPlease Visit the link below at bleedsilverandblack.com to see story.<br /><br /><a href="http://bleedsilverandblack.com/cgi-bin/blog">http://bleedsilverandblack.com/cgi-bin/blog</a>Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-1563819764231272992011-10-29T11:51:00.000-07:002011-10-29T14:13:35.570-07:002011-10-29T14:13:35.570-07:00Hearts Held TightOnce again I've found myself outside of my comfort zone, but rather than avoiding it the time has come to finally just confront it.<br /><br />I've been very quiet for the most part about my personal life simply because though I may not be a celebrity, we all have those people who try to invade your life as if you are one, and I'm not one to feed anyone, and for some odd years without even knowing it I was like a soup kitchen to those who refused to take my silence and starve.<br /><br />At this point it doesn't make a difference anymore because this is MY life and the way I choose to handle it empowers me and nobody else.<br /><br />I have spent the last 9 years of my life with a man who has changed my life in ways I would never have imagined... The man I knew is not the person I know now... Unfortunately.<br />I've always devoted my life to the people I love, to the extent that if I gave the very last piece of me I'd find a way to make more just so that I was able to give whatever was needed but in the end even then it wasn't enough. The thing we tend to forget is that no matter what your all is, it will never be enough to feed the greed.<br /><br />Trying to explain yourself over and over again, trying to understand why someone would be so heartless towards someone who gave their all and then some ... At some point you have to stop asking why...<br /><br />Nightmares night after night... they've turned into different realities, always trying to interpret one dream for a situation in your life, the lines become blurred and just all become one in the same. A man who told you nobody could have his heart because you already have it... Come to find out apparently just like a cat has 9 lives so he has hearts...<br />Problem being that when he started handing them out he forgot to keep a piece for himself.<br /><br />Maybe that isn't the fairest of things to say, because by saying that meant he cared enough about someone to provide that, and a passing opportunity isn't exactly worth his heart let alone a piece of it, so let this be a lesson to the ones who get ran over in his path. It's heart wrenching to find out that you were nothing more than a 9 year marathon and that you were the path and not the participant.<br /><br />I take away nothing more than a lesson learned, no regrets, because as I said he has changed my life and believe it or not for the better.... Because of him I learned to value the life I've lived because it pushed me above that... Everything I've endured in my life made me strong enough today to assess the situation and handle it.<br /><br />If there is anything I would hope a man would take from this is, it would be to please do not ignore her. If you value her at all don't give her empty promises, or empty words. Even if you know its not what you think she wants to hear... BE HONEST WITH HER no matter what it is, allow her the respect to make choices for herself. When she gives her all be thankful, not disrespectful, she is not just someone who SHOULD be there, she chooses to be there because of her love for you, because no matter your actions or attitude she feels that her love alone should be enough and its the only thing that matters..<br /><br />I want to be very clear on this... this is MY life ... once again MY life and it is from my point of view... It's been difficult to be able to be there for others and offer them tips on how to keep their relationships in tact all the while they work for everyone else it seems I'm the 1% that it wasn't meant for.<br />The girl next door, the strong and assertive, the passive, the caring, the girl who can handle herself in any male setting while still able to be the woman he needs her to be.... understanding, loving... apparently something was still missing in there, whatever it was it clearly was beyond me.<br /><br />Through the ups and downs he will have forever have changed my life, nothing can take that away from him... Probably the Love of my life... however the love of my life was filled with excuse after excuse and though he will probably be angry and upset once he reads it, it will only be because he pushed it off for so long and refused to see it before the rest of the world...<br /><br />I finally bid you a bittersweet farewell ... The incessant lack of respect was too much to handle, it was more than my heart could cover for any longer... So here I sit with a different lease on life, will I love again? Not like this I'm sure... Will he? maybe but in the back of his mind he'll always know that the comparison will never be the same... It's hard to compare Love with anything else.<br /><br />DDi Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-82350079629644791932011-10-11T20:56:00.000-07:002011-10-12T20:48:39.202-07:002011-10-12T20:48:39.202-07:00Offensive LineI am at the moment filled with the words that need to be said but without the way to lay them down...<br />I'm never at a loss for words but recently, I don't know, I've been at a loss of... rationalizations.<br /><br />We get hit and knocked down and it's tough to get back up, even for the strongest of people, it's a funny thing about love, it may just be one of the most dangerous drugs there is...<br /><br />I've learned so much in the last 12 years, see I, as I've said before, I love hard, I'm a hopeless romantic and I believe in Love and so in that I've loved and lost, and hurt in some of the worst ways possible... But still I am here.<br /><br />We rely a lot on what others feel, or think, to the point that we let that stop us from relying on our own intuition, or our own common sense, and feelings.<br /><br />There are many reasons that relationships don't work, many to me that are just excuses to be very honest, but some ... that are just misunderstood.<br /><br />Heartache is an emotion that was given to us just like Love, unfortunately, you take one you get the other... Now it may not be major heartache and some may say that yours is nothing compared to theirs which will probably be true.. but you will always have both at least to some capacity. This is not something to be worried about, because if you are like me... It takes a lot to be forgiving, but when you love someone, you love them whole heart and soul and that's all it takes to forgive. I spend my day looking back on the happiness that led me to where I am, and though I may not be in the brightest place at the moment, the road that led me there was radiant.<br /><br />You have to weigh the good and the bad, for me short of something catastrophic, the good always outweighs the bad. The pain will subside...<br /><br />I do my best to give the best advice I can, but the best advice I think I've ever given is "take only your own advice, because at the end of the day only you know your situation" Yes its great to have feedback from others but at the end of the day its your life and nobody can live it for you.<br /><br />Let me give you this one piece of advice, if you take anything with you from this post; Let yourself love, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, outsiders, friends, family or even the other person you're in the relationship with... Let yourself love its okay to do that!<br /><br />I stopped writing here last night, I needed to really reflect on what I was trying to say with the intent I originally envisioned.<br /><br />Remember to love yourself before you try to love anyone else, because 9 times out of 10 its more than likely lust; Once you love yourself there are no questions after that. If you do not know how to love yourself how do you know if you're loving the other?<br />Settle for nothing other than what you want in life, if that means that the love you share with someone isn't exactly understandable to anyone else.... guess what... GOOD NEWS! ITS NOT THEIR LIFE!<br /><br />I can say that without a doubt, what makes me happy is the man in my life, things will never be perfect, but he keeps me centered, probably without even knowing it. Yes, I complain about this that and the other, but if you know me, I COMPLAIN ABOUT EVERYTHING, because I'm usually bored, rest assured that with every complaint I know that there is nobody else worth it to me. My happiest moments in life are with him or because of him and any day of the week I know that's worth more than first place and gold. Will he understand that? Will anyone else? No, I doubt it, because this is me, my feelings and how I live, I live for me. What matters is, you understanding that, and enough to make that your focus, allowing yourself to feel all that comes with it and grow.<br /><br />We don't always get our prince charming, or the Love we try to keep, and there might come a time when you have to sit back and say... I've given my all, and at least I know that I tried and at the end it just wasn't right....<br /><br />Should this time come for you, you have to remember that it truly is not the end of the world. Would it kill me to lose my life? Yes... I've spent every day eating, sleeping, breathing this love.. so yes it would be as if the wind was knocked out of me, but I will breathe again...<br />Love is in you, not someone else... Allow yourself to love and someone will gravitate towards it, I promise. Take the time to get back to you, to remember who you are outside of someone else, whether you're with someone, or not... take that time, and the Love will find you again...Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-1211758397212726332011-10-09T14:43:00.000-07:002011-10-09T14:45:01.406-07:002011-10-09T14:45:01.406-07:00A Legacy To Commit To<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:worddocument> <w:view>Normal</w:View> <w:zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:trackmoves/> <w:trackformatting/> <w:punctuationkerning/> <w:validateagainstschemas/> <w:saveifxmlinvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:ignoremixedcontent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:alwaysshowplaceholdertext>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:donotpromoteqf/> <w:lidthemeother>EN-US</w:LidThemeOther> <w:lidthemeasian>X-NONE</w:LidThemeAsian> <w:lidthemecomplexscript>X-NONE</w:LidThemeComplexScript> <w:compatibility> <w:breakwrappedtables/> <w:snaptogridincell/> 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Through the first two quarters I couldn’t understand where the emotions were, it was as if they had tucked them away and it was business as usual, but then I realized, the sorrow was showing, they mourned and the 2<sup>nd</sup> half they fought!<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Two years ago, I could not fathom the idea of not only keeping Huff, but giving him the contact we did.. He had done nothing to prove he deserved to be here in my eyes… He came out the following year and made sure he at least showed why he wanted to be here…<br />Through all of the interviews yesterday, each and every person said they didn’t know how, Al made choices and only he knew why, but he was always right…<br />Huff today proved exactly that today. Even if Huff does nothing else in his career, he was meant to be here today, for this game alone, for that pick alone, for that win to make sure to secure that win.</p> <p class="MsoNormal">I was never able to feel an actual Superbowl win, I’ve experienced the presence but never the win… Today I can say I have, though it may not be the game that presents a ring, It gave me something I’ve wanted for so long. I am all about a moral victory, and many of you think that morals isn’t something that would be in the same sentence as the Raiders, but this is where I correct you… Al cared about this team, HIS WHOLE HEART WAS THIS GAME AND THIS TEAM to have seen what we did today would have given him the same feeling I believe, at the very least the faith in knowing we’re going all the way!<br /><br />Mark Davis will never be his father, but seeing him in his seat and the emotion in his face gave me some hope in the fact that he is motivated to continue to win, continue to be Committed to Excellence.<br />With the likes of possibly John Madden, and others being considered to help scout and run player operations hopefully (Tim Brown, Fred Biletnikoff) and Mark and Amy working together on the business end, there should be no reason we don’t take Al’s dream and go all the way…<br /><br />I saw a post from a friend that said… “Everyone said the Raiders wouldn’t do anything as long as Al was alive… If that’s the case you should all be scared now”<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I could not have said it better myself. The man left his mark, and now we will take that and thrive in it! </p> <p class="MsoNormal">I can’t think of anyone who exemplified excellence more than Al and we are more committed than ever to it. </p> <p class="MsoNormal">A win is a win, it does not have to be pretty… JUST WIN BABY!</p> <p class="MsoNormal"> </p> <p class="MsoNormal">-D </p><p class="MsoNormal">Bleedsilverandblack.com<br /></p>Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-8471361482117722432011-10-08T15:50:00.000-07:002011-10-09T14:42:43.952-07:002011-10-09T14:42:43.952-07:00Pride, Poise and Perfection...Please Visit<span style="font-weight: bold;"> <a href="http://bleedsilverandblack.com/cgi-bin/blog">BleedSilverAndBlack.Com</a> </span>to see this postDi Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-61827137608590584292011-10-06T20:09:00.000-07:002011-10-06T20:38:49.226-07:002011-10-06T20:38:49.226-07:00Love on TopToday I witnessed a man in what looked to be an over sized dirty worn out jacket it looked as if it had been run over by ten trucks, pants that barely covered his ankles. I sat in my car watching as he dug through the trash, and he looked as if he was frustrated finding small plastic bottles but very few. I meant to get out of the car to give him some change but when I looked back up he was gone...<br /><br />I walked out of the restaurant I was in about 15 minutes later and did not see him. I am usually the person that says, the guy with the sign probably makes a living off of this as a con, or they just want it for drugs or beer...<br />I felt something this time, I asked the Lord, if he is truly in need, Lord show me him again...<br />I didnt see him... I was on my way and a ways down the street I happened to look to my left and I saw him walking ... He was walking without his bag, I made a quick turn and drove up next to him... "Excuse me sir, I'm not sure of the proper way to do this, he slowly walked up to my window, I stretched my hand out and gave him a $10.00 bill...<br /><br />I have been in the midst of turmoil without even realizing it, I was losing myself and couldn't understand what was going wrong, what had I done?? I was asking the wrong questions.<br /><br />When the day had turned into night, it was as if I hadn't realized ... There hadn't been any light as of late, conversations were just that and nothing more, falling into what was a bottomless pit it felt as if I had already hit the end though it continued. Not able to grasp at anything not even the truth, I found the light.<br /><br />I had seen the darkness before, but only in dreams... I was starting to see it all around me now, though I hadn't seen it this way before I knew immediately what it was. I was being attacked from within, like a microwave it was cooking my heart to the point it was going to explode, or maybe it had, but I saw the love that was around me and it mended.<br /><br />You can love many people, although people break your heart, its not impossible to fix. We were meant to love, God is Love, to know him is to love him, I had forgot that somewhere along my way. I was on a journey and just like that! I had lost my way. So focused on the things I felt I loved most, I was being distracted and led into my own demise. We have to remember to love Him first and ourselves next, only through him can we know true love.<br /><br />What better way to know his love that to not only feel it... but to see it?<br />I had felt an overwhelming feeling, so much I was about to explode with love ... and then...<br /><br />He smiled at me, as his callused hand touched mine... he smiled...<br /><br /><br />DDi Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-65369401560149502332011-10-03T20:28:00.000-07:002011-10-03T20:33:02.457-07:002011-10-03T20:33:02.457-07:00Fresh Out The Box!<div style="text-align: left;">Hey Everyone!<br /></div><br />I just wanted to post it up to let you know that I have a YOUTUBE CHANNEL! Sometimes writing or reading doesn't always get the point across so I decided why not start a channel!<br /><br />You will see in the introduction video that I mention I am stepping out of my comfort zone. I wanted to give you some insight on why I am the way I am and why this is called Random Reads...<br />I hope you enjoy D's Random Moments... Make sure to tell your friends and Subscribe! MAHALO!<br /><br /><br /><center><iframe src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/ZodUJGVPhTM" allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="315" width="420"></iframe><center><br /><br />D</center></center>Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-19774245521073701422011-10-02T21:25:00.000-07:002011-10-02T22:32:11.822-07:002011-10-02T22:32:11.822-07:00Like You Mean It...To ask the question where to begin is like asking the ultimate question; What is the meaning of life...?<br /><br />As I let these words cross your path I only ask that you take it all in and let it do it's job, clear your mind and only let the words move your thoughts.<br /><br />To all of the women who have had a bad day, to the women who had one of the worst days of your life... Please listen and understand...<br />You are loved and you are more than what the situation made you feel. Don't allow outside influences or anger cloud your judgement; Pain can appear in many different ways just so that it sits int the pit of your heart in order to force the love beneath the service so that you're not able to reach for it. We are emotional creatures and just want to love and share it with someone, our efforts are often times taken in ways that are unwanted or unwarranted.<br /><br />I would hope those who are on the receiving end of the loving efforts would understand her, know that when she picks up random conversation with you that she is trying to tell you that all that happened before is no more, so that she doesn't dwell on the issue but to try in the same manner you preach to let it roll off the back. Opening your mind to her, to the thought that someone DOES ACTUALLY LOVE AND CARE ABOUT YOU might turn your life into what you envisioned it once upon a time, or maybe even turn it into something better than you imagined...<br /><br />Your words and actions have powers, the power to control her feelings and emotions, the power to turn a gesture into accusations, and the power to turn hope into pain.... It's a funny thing about power, though it may feel invisible, the abuse of it paints a horrific picture...<br /><br /><br /><br />DDi Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-873005118699209707.post-33661482067825873862011-09-01T19:55:00.000-07:002011-09-01T21:45:01.861-07:002011-09-01T21:45:01.861-07:00Volumes UnheardTo move as one but to settle as two was an occurrence that screams volumes.
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<br />Where does that fine line disappear? At what point does the fight become "just a game"?
<br />We go through our lives with so many ups and downs, as a woman we try to find the positives in situations, Or I know I do anyway... It's as if at some point it becomes misconstrued and invisible.
<br />I have gone through every thought my mind can put forth, evaluate every aspect of a sentence or situation and still I come up empty, without vengeance, without heart, without fear.
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<br />A calm before the storm, it was warm, and reminiscent of an early fall, deceiving. I kissed the life it gave and blessed it while I felt it slip away. I realized although late, to look through to the other side of the mirror, to see a glimpse of what the inner layers kept hidden. Had I been oblivious? No, I chose to give it a fighting chance, turns out the chance has its own way of working.
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<br />I start again, moving mountains with new peaks to climb, exploring what seems to be the terrain of the plains, there are in fact no peaks at all. Nothing to soar from, just an old beaten path that looks more familiar than the one that led me here. Is there a fork in the road? Can I take a guide? It looks as though this is a journey I'm destined to travel alone, to ride out the storm or sail away.
<br />I don't ask for much, yet lately it seems as if I'm asking for the world, not the world I would envision but maybe one of another.
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<br />I can't make sense of what it once was, or what I thought it would be; I'm lost in the reality that has shown itself to me. I've had this dance before, but where would I be had I not experienced it a time or two? I've slipped and fallen
<br />Di Jaxhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09972416820381265854noreply@blogger.com0