Update - Jesus > Religion Street Team!

Hello everyone!!

It's been forever I know, between the baptism, what I've been through the last few months, and my book I've had no time to give you anything.. My many apologies!

I am here to announce....
I HAVE BEEN CHOSEN TO BE A PART OF JEFFERSON BETHKE'S STREET TEAM TO SPREAD THE WORD ABOUT HIS NEW BOOK "Jesus > Religion Why He Is So Much Better Than Trying Harder, Doing More, and Being Good Enough"

I am more than excited to spread the word on this. As you all know, I have had a strong stand point on focusing on relationships and how our relationship with Jesus is the point of Christianity, not "Religion." This man went and took it to another level, with 25,686,039 views on Youtube. Following his videos and social media, I believe in this man because of his message. I stand behind it 100%!

If you don't know who he is .... WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN?!  He was introduced to the world when his spoken word video "Why I Hate Religion, But Love Jesus" hit social media. And now the companion to this video, an in depth book is ready for release! Do yourself a favor AND GET THIS BOOK! It is set for release on October 7th, 2013, you can pre order on Amazon and on Jefferson's website now! See video below.

Please help me in spreading the word! I will be updating soon with my review of the book! GOD IS WORKING IN AMAZING WAYS!

See my new update video below

Offensive Line

I am at the moment filled with the words that need to be said but without the way to lay them down...
I'm never at a loss for words but recently, I don't know, I've been at a loss of... rationalizations.

We get hit and knocked down and it's tough to get back up, even for the strongest of people, it's a funny thing about love, it may just be one of the most dangerous drugs there is...

I've learned so much in the last 12 years, see I, as I've said before, I love hard, I'm a hopeless romantic and I believe in Love and so in that I've loved and lost, and hurt in some of the worst ways possible... But still I am here.

We rely a lot on what others feel, or think, to the point that we let that stop us from relying on our own intuition, or our own common sense, and feelings.

There are many reasons that relationships don't work, many to me that are just excuses to be very honest, but some ... that are just misunderstood.

Heartache is an emotion that was given to us just like Love, unfortunately, you take one you get the other... Now it may not be major heartache and some may say that yours is nothing compared to theirs which will probably be true.. but you will always have both at least to some capacity. This is not something to be worried about, because if you are like me... It takes a lot to be forgiving, but when you love someone, you love them whole heart and soul and that's all it takes to forgive. I spend my day looking back on the happiness that led me to where I am, and though I may not be in the brightest place at the moment, the road that led me there was radiant.

You have to weigh the good and the bad, for me short of something catastrophic, the good always outweighs the bad. The pain will subside...

I do my best to give the best advice I can, but the best advice I think I've ever given is "take only your own advice, because at the end of the day only you know your situation" Yes its great to have feedback from others but at the end of the day its your life and nobody can live it for you.

Let me give you this one piece of advice, if you take anything with you from this post; Let yourself love, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, outsiders, friends, family or even the other person you're in the relationship with... Let yourself love its okay to do that!

I stopped writing here last night, I needed to really reflect on what I was trying to say with the intent I originally envisioned.

Remember to love yourself before you try to love anyone else, because 9 times out of 10 its more than likely lust; Once you love yourself there are no questions after that. If you do not know how to love yourself how do you know if you're loving the other?
Settle for nothing other than what you want in life, if that means that the love you share with someone isn't exactly understandable to anyone else.... guess what... GOOD NEWS! ITS NOT THEIR LIFE!

I can say that without a doubt, what makes me happy is the man in my life, things will never be perfect, but he keeps me centered, probably without even knowing it. Yes, I complain about this that and the other, but if you know me, I COMPLAIN ABOUT EVERYTHING, because I'm usually bored, rest assured that with every complaint I know that there is nobody else worth it to me. My happiest moments in life are with him or because of him and any day of the week I know that's worth more than first place and gold. Will he understand that? Will anyone else? No, I doubt it, because this is me, my feelings and how I live, I live for me. What matters is, you understanding that, and enough to make that your focus, allowing yourself to feel all that comes with it and grow.

We don't always get our prince charming, or the Love we try to keep, and there might come a time when you have to sit back and say... I've given my all, and at least I know that I tried and at the end it just wasn't right....

Should this time come for you, you have to remember that it truly is not the end of the world. Would it kill me to lose my life? Yes... I've spent every day eating, sleeping, breathing this love.. so yes it would be as if the wind was knocked out of me, but I will breathe again...
Love is in you, not someone else... Allow yourself to love and someone will gravitate towards it, I promise. Take the time to get back to you, to remember who you are outside of someone else, whether you're with someone, or not... take that time, and the Love will find you again...

A Legacy To Commit To

I went into this game ready for a win, with the hopes that we were going to ride these emotions not just today but all the way to a Super Bowl win. Through the first two quarters I couldn’t understand where the emotions were, it was as if they had tucked them away and it was business as usual, but then I realized, the sorrow was showing, they mourned and the 2^nd half they fought!

Two years ago, I could not fathom the idea of not only keeping Huff, but giving him the contact we did.. He had done nothing to prove he deserved to be here in my eyes… He came out the following year and made sure he at least showed why he wanted to be here…
Through all of the interviews yesterday, each and every person said they didn’t know how, Al made choices and only he knew why, but he was always right…
Huff today proved exactly that today. Even if Huff does nothing else in his career, he was meant to be here today, for this game alone, for that pick alone, for that win to make sure to secure that win.

I was never able to feel an actual Superbowl win, I’ve experienced the presence but never the win… Today I can say I have, though it may not be the game that presents a ring, It gave me something I’ve wanted for so long. I am all about a moral victory, and many of you think that morals isn’t something that would be in the same sentence as the Raiders, but this is where I correct you… Al cared about this team, HIS WHOLE HEART WAS THIS GAME AND THIS TEAM to have seen what we did today would have given him the same feeling I believe, at the very least the faith in knowing we’re going all the way!

Mark Davis will never be his father, but seeing him in his seat and the emotion in his face gave me some hope in the fact that he is motivated to continue to win, continue to be Committed to Excellence.
With the likes of possibly John Madden, and others being considered to help scout and run player operations hopefully (Tim Brown, Fred Biletnikoff) and Mark and Amy working together on the business end, there should be no reason we don’t take Al’s dream and go all the way…

I saw a post from a friend that said… “Everyone said the Raiders wouldn’t do anything as long as Al was alive… If that’s the case you should all be scared now” I could not have said it better myself. The man left his mark, and now we will take that and thrive in it!

I can’t think of anyone who exemplified excellence more than Al and we are more committed than ever to it.

A win is a win, it does not have to be pretty… JUST WIN BABY!

-D

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Instruction Manual

Thats right Fellas... It's your turn.

In the last year I have been so obsessed with learning how the male mind works (Yes ladies... it works) that I thought I may have forgotten how ours works... Until a man made the sweetest gesture for me and it all came flowing back.

I thought to myself one day, If I hear another guy say that women need to come with an instruction manual I'm gonna!!! .... Write one for them!

So here it is... Believe it or not it's pretty simple.

WE WANT WHAT WE WANT... and sometimes reality doesn't always play a part in that.
Sorry ( Our Bad )

First thing is first... get to know the woman you're with because instruction manuals may not fit every model, but it will usually help for annual maintenance.

Every woman does have a Dream Man... Now I know I know... you thought he was some fictional character... but alas... I will have to correct you, because he REALLY DOES EXIST.
You will never see him, or hear him... But you will be compared to him every second of every day... You will only achieve his greatness once... At the beginning of your relationship...
You MAY catch a glimpse of him on your honeymoon but don't get comfortable because by that Monday You'll just be the man she married...

Okay so lesson #1 Unless its Sex... No always means YES.

Are we mad... NO = YES
Should I do this for her ... No you don't have to = Yes
Do I have to go ... You don't have to = If you know whats good for you, you better

So every email forward that you've received that states this... DID come from a woman IT'S TRUE.

Lesson #2 What a Woman Wants
(grab your pop corn and drink, you're gonna be here for a minute)

Women want you to do things just because you want to. What does that mean?
Perfect movie reference - "The Break Up'-' I want you to WANT to do the dishes"

Meaning- Because men are not typically the emotional creatures we are, we don't always get the verbal certification of the relationship so we look for actions.

Yes you may tell us you love us, or that you care about us but remember we're always comparing you to Mr. Dream Man, and Dream Man would do things for us without us asking (i.e. super cute gestures, gifts -candy flowers etc- ) these are called the "just because gifts". Now he doesn't have to do these things all the time, a couple times a month he would come home and say.. I know you don't like flowers but you seemed sad today I thought it would make you feel better. He would take her OUT to dinner and make a night just for her... HE would plan these things. Actions will always speak louder than words.

Here is a perfect example of a situation I had...

" I love doing sporting events but can we do something where not everyone is with us?!"
His Answer: If you want to do something, then just say it...

Can anyone figure out where he went wrong, or what he should have said??

-I'll give you a minute-

Correct Answer: I'm planning a weekend vacation for us, or Do You want to go to dinner/Movie, Let's go to the theme park (because we do still like that stuff) do you want to take a drive, or a walk.. lets spend the night in and watch movies... etc. you get my point.

Something as simple as making her dinner or breakfast here and there is something that counts.
We really do enjoy the small things... We notice them every time you do these things.
So if you thought that night of sex was just because you looked good that day... WRONG... you did something our Dream Man would do.

Compliments are the ABSOLUTE best way to get her to listen to you, or put her in a good mood, if you wake up and see that she's already not having it... NO MATTER WHAT SHE LOOKS LIKE give her a compliment ... she takes that with her through the day.

LIES VS TRUTH -CONSEQUENCES

I know that you guys think, if I tell her (this) we're going to fight, I don't feel like fighting etc.

-ALWAYS TELL HER THE TRUTH-

Even if its something so stupid that you wouldn't imagine her being upset with you if you lied -tell the truth-

We hate nothing more than a lie. If you were just with your friends but you feel like " I don't have to tell her everything I do" THE FIRST THING YOU NEED TO DO IS THROW THAT PRIDE AWAY ... You're in a relationship now there's no such thing as pride anymore no such thing as "I" anymore, you are her equal, if you're not doing anything wrong there's no reason why you can't be open with her. It's okay to tell her you're out with your friends, 9 times out of 10 she's not going to care. BUT if you lie and say your car broke down or some other ridiculous cover (that she doesn't believe anyway) you're going to cause a fight, and not just one but fights the rest of your relationship. Why you ask?

Because if you lie about something so small, our mind tells us... If he lied about something small what's stopping him from lying about something big... and that sticks with us. It's not even about trust so much, it's a protective mechanism that we have, the "fool us once shame on you, fool us twice shame on us" well we refuse to be fooled twice.

Example: If we know something is wrong, just tell us, because we will keep asking, or we will assume its us and then a fight will happen. IT JUST WILL.

We ALWAYS know when you're lying... even though we may seem like we believe you we will ALWAYS know when it's a lie. Don't believe me?? Think back about how she acts anytime something comes up that addresses what she knows you lied about... My guess is her mood changes a bit... that's because she's watching what you say... Because it is true...

WE DO NOT FORGET

and we will ask you that night ... I thought you said... ( your excuse here) well tonight you said ( new excuse)

We are not beneath you, and we will always let you know that. When you lie to us and EXPECT us to believe you, it makes us feel like you think we're stupid enough to believe SUCH A RIDICULOUS EXCUSE.

You may think we're upset about what you have to say to us, but trust that we are grown enough to deal with it and move on, because if you have a good woman that's exactly what will happen.
There may be things we need to know but you think we don't WANT to know... If we ask, just be honest, give us the opportunity to be able to make our own choices with all of the information we need to make an informed decision. You might argue but I guarantee that fight wont last as long as the one you will have if she finds out the truth on her own, or you finally give her the truth wayyy down the line.

If You leave this and only remember one thing always remember this... We are never mad... the emotion that propels us is not anger... You've hurt us... Women deal with anger differently than men and though we may come off upset... we're not... we're HURT and trust me you much rather us be angry than hurt. The arguments that you're having are with yourself until you realize you're fighting the wrong battle... You're in Waterloo and we're over here having the Civil War out... Nobody can fight alone and the sooner you realize that women fight different fights, the sooner arguments will be resolved.

Trust Goes Both Ways... If you want us to trust you, then trust we can handle things.

Guys Night Out

Let's say you're out and its late... she's calling non stop... and now you're mad because she wont stop calling. ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS ANSWER.

When you don't answer what do you think is going through her mind??

WRONG

No our first thought is not that you're cheating... OUR FIRST thought is, I hope he's alright, I hope he didn't get in an accident.
Once we've contacted authorities to make sure your car hasn't been reported anywhere, NOW we're thinking...

"He better have been in an accident because otherwise he's going to WISH that was the case"

Ladies you know we've all said it...

We are nurturers first... we cannot bare the thought of something happening to the man we love. It's the worst feeling imaginable. For us, all we need is if you're going to be longer than maybe what you said you were going to be, AND YOU AREN'T CHEATING ... never text it... always call to say hey, I'm having a good time with the guys, I'm going to stay a little longer. (but you better have at least spent some time with us before this - QUALITY TIME - )

That is all we need to hear. You can have a life outside of us, because believe me we want one too, but you all know we would call to tell you what we're doing and give you updates.

We understand that we're not going to be on your minds all the time, but make us think we are.

It's as simple as Think before you do... Think of her when you're about to do something nice... Think of her when you're about to do something stupid...

We are not as simple as you... not by any means... but if you break it down into a summary,
Trust, Being Thoughtful, and Just because... Those 3 things will get you far... further than you are now my guess is....

To Be Continued
Book coming soon....
-D